Well hello there, if this is your first visit welcome, welcome, you’ve discovered my blog just as I’m about to confess to my biggest guilty secret!
If you’re returning, Oh My Gosh, I’m so glad to see you’re still hanging in there because it’s been a while since I posted here I know!
First off let me say thanks for sticking in there, I’m greatly honored by your stick-to-it-ivness and by way of this post I’m committing right now to doing the same (stick with it) now that I’m back in the game.
Like so many of us do, I have let my own site languish, untouched and alone hidden in a corner (of my mind and the interwebs) for way too long.
To be honest, I thought quite seriously, about just ditching the whole thing, but a few kind and hardy souls have assured me I should not.
So I am once again picking up pen (or rather keyboard) and attempting to share my thoughts and experiences on this wonderful ride – doing business online.
Hopefully those of you who’ve stuck it out this far will be able to take something from this and benefit from yet another of my mistakes in order to avoid them for yourselves.
But, what does all of that have to do with failure? And who the heck is David Perdew when he’s at home?
Well first things first. I consider it sort of a “failure” on my part that although I know exactly what I should have been doing with this site since it’s inception in March 2012, I’ve (consistently even – ugh), put other (paying) projects ahead of it and allowed this, which was meant to be my “passion project” languish as a result.
What Qualifies As A Failure?
So is that a failure? Well, I kinda think it is, in fact I think it’s a massive fail, at least of sorts. It’s a failure on my part to prioritize my own projects over those of clients. Even though that maybe could be justified (in our crazy minds or at least mine) because clients pay, hopefully today, and this project, although it does generate some revenue it’s not had the TLC it should have to really come into it’s own revenue-wise.
Sad when you realize that I work with others, helping them monetize and grow their online and offline businesses so why have I not applied my own rules and teachings to this project? I guess as they say “the Cobbler’s kids never have shoes” meaning we often neglect our own needs in favor of the needs of others, especially when they pay!
So there you have my confession for the day. In the court of internet opinion, Debra Lloyd has been charged of ignoring her own site and found GUILTY your honor! Oh the shame 🙁 so… moving on…
That leads to the real question which is, what to do now that I have “owned it” as Dr. Phil would say? Well, I started just about 10 mins ago as I said, by “owning it”. For me, that means I decided to stop working on (super-sharp intake of breath there), a client project, and began writing this post.
Flogging A Failure!
I’ve been flogging myself (mentally – in reality that’s not my thing) lately, well actually for ages for not getting back on track with NGBT and wasting too much time wondering how I would go about explaining why. So today I did something different and went and looked at my consulting client list, for notes from someone I worked with a while ago who’d done the exact same thing for many of the same reasons – bills to pay – clients willing to pay me – my project gets sidelined to later.
The advice I gave that client was, stop, stop right now, and go do one thing to get your own project back on track. Treat your own business or projects as if they are your very best client. Then go work it like you want (desperately) to be your best performing client, you know the one I’m talking about, the one who takes action immediately without fear of failure then comes back and says “what next?”
I saw I had a note of one of our conversations where I’d said “Failing is NOT a fail…giving up IS!” Now that’s not hugely original I know, but by God it’s true isn’t it?
We’ve all heard the stories of Lincoln and Henry Ford even Einstein and Pasteur. I know we’re not leading a country through civil war, inventing an industry or a bomb or making medical history and saving millions in the process. But I’ll bet a hundred bucks there’s a bunch of folks out there with their own “failing forward” stories. I know I have mine from my offline business and they continue, you guessed it, all the way through to today and actually to this post!
What’s The Rx?
So what’s the *Rx or recipe if you like, for overcoming the negative thoughts that creep into our thoughts and feed our feelings of failure (hungry, greedy even, little buggers that they are)? Well, it aint rocket science, it aint sexy and it aint exciting – it’s the old cliches, you know “nose to the grindstone stuff”. There’s a slew of them – “pick yourself up and dust yourself off” yada, yada.
The real Rx though, is to do SOMETHING, and do it NOW (or 15 mins ago now in my case). Stop worrying about the why, you know the how (so don’t rinse and repeat that one), and take ACTION RIGHT NOW to change something.
After that it all comes down to monitoring and measuring the results so you do know what to rinse and repeat. Starting with the very first step of putting your own projects first and making those your TOP priority, every day.
Shocker that I’ve taken 800+/- words to say what Nike said in three – Just Do It!
Who Is David Perdew – and is he really on crack?
Finally I’m getting around to David Perdew. For those of you who are not familiar with him, he’s the founder of MyNAMS online business training systems and NAMS Live events. Why did I say he’s on crack about failure?
Well, I’ve met David at NAMS a few times and I’ve heard him talking about many things related to online business, failing among them. He can get pretty worked up about understanding the need to fail, and to fail fast.
What really speaks to me though is the amazing learning system he’s built to help people fail forward, in fact they help you fail forward by learning from other peoples mistakes and failures (you know for sure they don’t hurt so much) via the MyNAMS training and community.
One of the things I’ve heard David and many others say is they failed many, many, many times before they ever succeeded. Donald Trump is quoted as having said “the difference between success and failure is the speed of implementation” I guess he’s on crack about failure too!
I know I’m on crack (not literally-just saying in case the NSA are really watching) about failure – I love to fail, but most of all I love to FAIL FAST and get it behind me. I highly recommend you learn to love to fail, fail fast and fail forward. It gets a whole lot easier once you “own” the fact that the only real failure is when you give up – that’s why we feel so shitty when we do.
Just look at this post to see exactly how fast owning it allows you to turn it around, and use your ‘fail’ to move forward.
Don’t Give Up Yet!
Seriously though, if you’ve been thinking of prioritizing your own project/s and (like we all do) putting it off, then I challenge you to make a commitment to attend NAMS Live (yes you can still get a ticket – check out the Ad in the sidebar, it’s next weekend in Atlanta, GA, will I see you there?).
If you really, absolutely cannot up sticks and get away in 7 days (as I write this post), then click through anyway and check it out because I’ll be letting you know what you’ve missed while I’m there next week.
Let’s talk…what failures have you already put behind you and which are you planning to say “bugger off” to next? Leave a comment and let me know 🙂
*Rx is a common abbreviation used in US pharmacies and generally accepted to mean “prescription”. It is in fact Latin meaning “recipere” or “recipe” I could go on but I’ll stop there, because once you know I used to own a bakery you’ll understand why I’m so fond of and partial to using recipes for much more than just food!
PS: With yesterdays WordPress 3.6 update and Genesis 2.0 expected right behind it, I’m completely reworking this site to be more secure, mobile responsive and html5 compliant. I’ll be posting regularly as I go through that process, spilling all about what tools I use and how it goes…warts and all.
If you’re a scan reader type or you just cut right to the bottom line here, I dare you to read the post, it explains exactly why I’m on crack about failing forward and well worth the time to read.
And yes, I’m really done now! Until…